Bullying is one of the biggest menaces of society and has been transformed in this digital world. Bullying can be experienced by anybody irrespective of their age, gender, nationality, and sex. Whether a man or woman is bullied at work or a kid bullied in school or a senior citizen walking in the park being bullied; the trend of bullying, cyberbullying, the number of bullies, and the affectees are increasing day by day. Types of bullying are verbal, social, physical, set in person, setting in online, direct, indirect, overt, covert and psychological (very common). Bullying happen anywhere. You may not be alone, there are millions of people around the globe being bullied every year. Here are common reasons why you are bullied and how to deal with that.
You Are Good and You Have Got Some Specialty
Be careful who you bully, she or he might be the future or next superstar, entrepreneur, your future employer, or the company’s CEO. You have got something very special, you might be beautiful, very well educated, talented, highly qualified, or something is hidden that you have not yet explored or realized but the bullies are feeling insecure about that, being jealous and unable to compete with you hence using dirty tactics through bullying you individually, in a group or through other means. Either they are unable to realize your hidden talent or feel insecure about that. Ever wondered about celebrities, superstars, and rich entrepreneurs? Have they never faced bullies? they also faced the biggest bullies, and several still facing bullies yet the way of dealing with them have been changed. They faced and become successful in their lives and role models for millions.
You Are Bullying Yourself
The moment you lose your confidence or the moment you start thinking negatively about yourself, degrading yourself, cursing yourself or your family, and being unthankful, you have decided that you are going to be bullied by others because you have already done that with yourself. Several people in this world especially teenagers when they get bullied start believing that they are the only ones in this world who lack everything and have nothing special and start degrading themselves hence making the bullies successful in their bad intentions.
There are several real examples when bullies are unable to get physical favor from some opposite gender then they start bullying her/him. Such examples are very common in schools, colleges, and universities where if a boy wants to have a physical relationship with a girl but the girl is not interested and willing then sometimes some boys bully her psychologically and verbally by saying ugly, ugly, and along with other colleagues including girls and boys start harassing her, bullying her so that anyhow she gets trapped and feel degraded about herself and compelled to have a physical relationship with her. Such things happen on prom night
Bad habits like starting drinking, smoking, bad friendships, and taking drugs make you weak and more vulnerable to losing your confidence and getting bullied by others because such bad habits and your reactions will make the bullies more powerful and active to bully you.
How Affected Vulnerable Peoples Take Bullies
Several affectees take bullies so seriously and negatively that after getting trapped and brain-washed they start degrading themselves, adopt bad friendships/gatherings, and let themselves become prone to their physical sensation, drugs, smoking, and bad activities. Several affectees start ruining their family, personal, and work lives; misbehaving with their parents and siblings, cursing them, and blaming them for being bullied. Other affectees unwillingly become gangsters due to insecurity, show-off, or to look cool and strong. Getting tattoos painted on their body and expressing their insecurity and feelings are also some common post effects.
How To Cope With Bullying
Let me first share with you real-life practical examples for your motivation, and satisfaction with the successful vulnerable bullied superstars, participants who got the chance to perform in front of millions worldwide and were liked by millions of people around the world. Those girls or boys who were bullied for their beauty, talent, or any other reasons got so much love, success, and applause from millions of people that one cannot even imagine that. Just type Britain’s got talent bullied, bullied superstars, or bullied celebrities in the YouTube search bar and you will get hundreds of videos of those once vulnerable bullied superstars, and celebrities but now happily, successfully spending their life with full freedom and motivation.
Let’s bullying don’t be a menace to society. The most important thing you have to do is use both ears to listen from one ear and let the words of bullies get out of your second ear, in short, ignore them. If you can’t deal with that situation you may ignore it. Avoid thinking about those bullying situations and those bullies. No need to think about those words or what some bully did with you. You may also contact and report to the department or team in your school, workplace, city, etc that is dealing with such cases.
Learn Some Skills, Educate Yourself
Instead of spending time alone and cursing yourself and ruining your energies and skills, take out most of your time and learn some skills no matter how skilled, or talented you believe you are; educate yourself, learn online, start reading articles, and keep practicing those skills, start teaching online, sharing and monetizing your expertise with others can bring more blessings and happiness in your life.
Make Some Good Friends
Don’t worry about the number of friends you have, just keep those friends who are loyal, and sincere with you, even one friend is more than sufficient for you and better than tens of so-called friends who are not loyal to you or not favorable to you. If one friend can bring positive vibes to you and you feel comfortable in his or her presence that’s perfectly great for you. Never chase a big list of friends.
Focus On Your Career And Life Goals
Make a goal for your life and work on that target, keep working, and keep yourself busy. Stop getting trapped by the negative past and vibes. Celebrate your success.
Try to join some voluntary services, and charity organizations. Spend some time with kids, senior citizens, and special people who require special attention. Just keep changing your environment for positivity and better vibes, and help those who need your help. You won’t believe how your little help and little time can bring change in the lives of several people.
Become a Role Model For Others
There are thousands of affectees of bullies in your community, city, country, and millions in this whole world. Achieve your life goals with full success and become a role model for these children, the community, and those millions affectees. Nowadays, reaching millions of people is not difficult. Share your bravery no matter if you are a kid, man or woman, or senior citizen, come forward, come online and share your success stories. You may gather several other affectees who are successful in their lives but once they were affectees of bullies as well.
YouTube Channel or Blog on Bullies and Successful Affectees
Create a WordPress blog, or YouTube channel and start interviewing successful affectees who were affected by bullies but are now successful entrepreneurs, superstars, celebrities, CEOs, or very much happy, independent, and successful in their lives. Start sharing their stories after their permission or let them share their stories that how they were bullied, how they survived and what did they do to cope with bullies, and what those bullies feel about them when they meet them now or when they see them.
Never Think You Are Alone, Be Thankful
Stop believing that you lack anything, be thankful to God always. Avoid thinking that you are the only affected, millions suffer on daily basis worldwide but never dishearten and become successful in their lives.
Make Bullies Your Biggest Motivation
Based on real-life experiences and examples from people, I have seen several people who were bullied in schools, workplaces, and residential societies by colleagues, friends, co-workers, and neighbors but never let themselves down and felt miserable, they never get disheartened in-fact made bullies their biggest motivation and worked hard, smartly
Watch Comedy and Similar Motivational Stories
Comedy is the best medicine for health. Try to laugh and bring smiles and happiness to your life. Watch comedy videos, comedians, and several motivational stories of successful people who faced bullying and become successful. Get motivation from them and try to adopt positive things in your life.
Stop Comparing With Others
The more you compare before and after getting bullied the more you will be ruining your life and playing with yourself dangerously so better to stop comparing your life with others because you may be unaware of the insights.
Life is not always the same so that you. Never think that you were bullied in past will make you bullied forever. Bullying is just connecting the dots to make you successful. Now it’s up to you how you connect those connecting dots whether towards bravery, success, happiness, a healthy and wealthy life or towards cowardliness, drug addiction, disheartening, anger, cursing, or dis-satisfactory life full of complaints.